Blog update

I have been running two blogs similiar to each other for a while now, this one and the one from my website Love Nurture which is http://www.ejobuaya.wordpress.com

I will be continuing only with the Love Nurture http://www.lovenurture.com one as it is the original one and the idea for this blog is closely mirrowed on that, besides it's too much work to keep two going with the barest minimal of responses!

Thank you for viewing. For more couple issues or related articles visit my other blog at www.ejobuaya.wordpress.com

The resource page will still be available.

God Has A Master Plan for Your Life!

I was reading the excerpt of the same title in the Believer's Voice of Victory magazine and knew you needed to read this too and make a decision. The decision is to decide to allow God's master plan for your life or refuse it, the choice is yours! Read on:

"In God’s Master Plan for Your Life, Gloria Copeland, NY Times Bestselling author, reveals ten biblical keys to unlock the blessings of God into your life and help you to connect to God's master plan and good path for you.

Persevering in Christian faith, being obedient to God at all costs, and developing a heart of gratitude are three of the biblical keys that Gloria Copeland teaches that will put you on the right path to God.

God’s master plan is wonderful and exciting! It is large and never dull! And God’s master plan is open to anyone who will accept biblical Christian principles.

Giving your life over to God–letting go and letting Him take over the leadership in every area–is no easy task. But in her trademark inspiring and empowering style, Gloria Copeland shares truths from the Bible and from her personal life to help you reach your destiny with God.
Living a Godly life is within every person's reach, no matter your age, your background, what sins you've committed in the past, or your current circumstances--whether you are a Christian already or not.

God had a master plan for Adam and Eve. God had a master plan for Abraham. God had a master plan for Jesus. And God has a master plan for you--experience a life of faith in God!"
Read an Excerpt from God's Master Plan for Your Life by Gloria Copeland

Public displays of affection

Contrary to misguided opionions of youngsters, the general response to public displays of affection like french kissing is not, 'Ah!' but 'ugh!'

I was on my way back home today and waiting for the train with me were a young 'couple' I say couple, but the girl didn't seem to be too much into the public display of affection as the boy was.

Things to note when you next want to show public displays of affection:
- It's inconsiderate to others around who really don't want to see to people lap each other up like dogs;
- If you're really in love, not lust you would consider the girls reputation - what impression do people around have of her when you treat her this way?
- Not acceptable behaviour around children.
- What happened to a good old fashioned hug and a peck, holding hands, kissing the hand (not a sloppy slobbery one) in the public place?

I am all for public displays of affection only when, if and where appropriate. And my personal opinion and it's a biblical one, if you're so much in love commit to it get married! If you can't, you either too young, not right for each other or really not in love. If you think you are prove it!

Change of name

It's a major issue the change of name business prior to and after marriage, so it's a wonder many couples don't address it prior to tying the knot!

In all fairness when a woman has a nice sounding, easy to pronounce and 'catchy' maiden surname she is not willing to exchange it for one that is not so catchy, nice sounding and easy to pronounce.

Other things to consider, is your fiancée’s or wife's unwillingness to let go of her maiden surname due to sentimental reasons? i.e. no sons to carry on her father's name, men really should understand that.

If you don't, note one day it could be you who has no son's who will or can carry on your name and your daughter(s) may want to carry on your name and will have an uncompromising and inconsiderate spouse who will refuse that request, just like you are doing now!
An option many people go for is the double barrelled name that actually works quite well for many couples or the husband takes on his father’s first name which may be more suitable as a surname or his paternal grandfather's name.

This is just a suggestion, with an open mind and clear lines of communication added with some creativity, you'll be surprised what you can achieve.

I Look forward to hearing especially from those who have made it work or know of others who have.

Let me know

It’s Sunday morning today in the UK and the clocks have gone forward, so we’ve lost an hour of sleep!
If you’ve benefited at all from this blog, let me know.
If there are any family issues we can cover or in more depth let me know.
If you have not benefitted and feel the blog is a waste of time let me know.
Thank you for your time.

‘Cling-free relationships’

This is what I read today in my daily devotional, hope it helps all parents reading this.

‘”Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother...’” Genesis 2:24

God said, ‘”Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.’”God said that to Adam and Eve, the first two people on earth, who had neither father nor mother to leave, nor children, yet, to leave them.

Have your children left home? If so, you’ve discovered that you don’t just adjust overnight to your sense of loss. After all, you’ve invested yourself, your time, your labour, your love, your faith and your hopes in them. They’re your most precious possessions, your pride and joy; now they’re leaving and taking a big chunk of you with them. The empty nest can be both shocking and depressing. But it’s been basic introduction to life, ever since Eden. That’s why God laid it out for Adam and Eve so early in the parenting game. Knowing that one of the hardest parts of parenting is letting go, God was saying, ‘letting go takes time. Start preparing yourself now, before you have children.’

Our kids are born leaving! From their steps, they’re on an outbound orbit, returning periodically to tank up on reassurance (or funds) and leaving again to become their ‘own person’ couple or family as God intended. So begin early, ‘letting out the line,’ gradually increasing their freedom as they can handle responsibility. God gives us two principles for a healthy marriage in Genesis 2:24: leaving and cleaving. Your child must leave in order to cleave to the partner God is giving them. So invest in their happiness by having your own life and letting them have theirs. Making it easier for them makes it easier for you!

Go to:
ucbmedia.co.uk
ucbmedia.co.uk/inspirational
ucbmedia.co.uk/gospel
ucbmedia.co.uk/bible, ucb.tv

Parenting tips for creating more time with your children:

I found another link equally as good as yesterday link, if you are a large family, you should read that entry and visit the link.

Anyway, here is the other article titled parenting tips, below you'll find the link:

Parenting Tips 1:Rethink your life: one day each week, squeeze your schedule into your family life, rather than your family into your schedule. Find things that you can do together as a family. Make sure that you give each child individualized attention. Talk to your child; find out how he’s doing. Make yourself responsible for having a finger on his pulse. Be accessible, even when you’re busy.

Parenting Tips 2:Spending time doesn’t mean you have to do anything special. All it means is that you give your interest and attention. If you’re overwhelmed with chores, ask your kids to help. There’s something about engaging with others in rote activity that invites conversation and connection. Above all, check yourself before you use candy, money, toys or trips to make up for being unavailable. Remind yourself that this is often a clever defense to assuage a sense of guilt.

Parenting Tips 3:Unscheduled time--time spent spontaneously and given freely— is a great healer of relationship. Learn to make time for the people in your life. Have days or at least moments when you freely give your time. Don’t worry that the laundry isn’t folded or that you have a million things to do. Put all that aside and give your children time. By doing so, you’ll be giving them the most valuable thing you own.

Copyright © 1999 by Laura Pickford Ramirez.

http://www.parenting-child-development.com/parenting-tips.html